Nobody warns you about this stage of motherhood. When your child gets older and more self-sufficient, things change — and nobody prepared me for any of them. Here are the three that hit me first.
1. My time
I used to plan my whole day around what he needed. Now there are hours in my day that are just… mine. At first that felt strange. A little empty, even — a little guilty, if I’m honest. Then I realized: this is the first time in years I’ve had time that’s actually mine.
2. My focus
For years it was mom first, everything else second. Now my dreams are getting louder again. The goals I put on hold? They’re back on the table — and I’m not apologizing for that.
3. Dating
It’s different when your child is older and has his own life. I’m not sneaking around a nap schedule anymore. I get to show up as a whole woman — not just somebody’s mama.
I talked through all three in this video — watch it here: https://www.youtube.com/shorts/MP8mZTATuPI
If you’re in this stage too, tell me: which one changed for you first — your time, your focus, or your love life? I’ll go first: time. It felt strange before it felt like freedom. Focus came next. The love life? She’s arriving in her own time. 🤎
Tell me yours in the comments — I read them.
— Bree
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